Don’t Blame the Audience for Your Fear of Public Speaking. It’s Your Fault (and How to Fix It)

Ugh. Why are there so many people attending the event today?

“There are so many better things for them to do than listen to me.” You say.

But admit it. You actually want them to hear what you’re going to say.

You just hope they won’t notice when you climb up that stage or walk to the front that your knees are trembling.

Sweaty palms, teeth chattering and heart palpitating.

What if you trip while walking?

What if you stumble upon your words?

Or stutter at one sentence then another. And another.

Before you know it, it’s all over.

Are all your thoughts prior to presenting always like this?

If yes, then congratulations! You’ve found the root of your public speaking problems.

 

The Significance of Your Mindset

“What you think, you become.”

You’ve probably heard that one too many times, but take a moment to really think about the effects of your thoughts.

Do you remember thinking to yourself you couldn’t do a specific task because (insert excuse here)?

Here’s a no-brainer: Everything starts with a thought.

But not everyone knows that how we think can directly affect how we feel and behave.

Let me share a story.

In the fourth grade, I had a teacher who loved to call me to speak in front.

I mean, there were forty other students in the classroom, why me?

It’s not like I can object anyway. He was the teacher, and I needed to stand up in front.

Socially awkward, shy and insecure ten-year-old me stood in front to unsuccessfully deliver a presentation.

I always thought “why me? I’m not good enough for this. “And not good enough for that, I was.

Because I thought that I wasn’t.

Not that I actually wasn’t good enough.

It was just stuck in my brain that I was never going to get better with speaking in front of an audience.

So what happened?

I ignored every opportunity to improve, though it was there almost every corner.

I was so scared of speaking in front, I didn’t even speak when I was not in front.

Graded recitation? No thanks. I’ll get a zero instead of making a fool out of myself.

Talking to the popular kids? No thanks. Why would they even want to talk to me?

My self-depreciating mindset paralyzed me from doing anything I really wanted.

I wanted to stand out, communicate what I was thinking, and act the way I wanted to.

It took a few more years to realize my talents and potential.

And a little more to find out that I haven’t utilized the most important ability I have.

That everyone has.

You see, we look for things that reinforce our belief.

Like my story above, instead of seeing something as an opportunity to change, we shoot it down because we’re looking for proof that we can’t do it.

Most of the time, it’s only our thoughts holding us back from doing great things.

But I don’t blame you completely for all of that. It’s actually backed by science.

From an evolutionary perspective, fear has protected the human race from potential dangers such as predators, so feeling that emotion is actually a need for survival.

But nowadays, we don’t have to deal with the kind of dangers our ancestors used to face.

So I can blame you partially for that, at least.

But don’t worry. Now that you know that it begins in your head, you now have the chance to start over.

Start right now.

Believe you can do whatever you want to do, if you put in the work, and most of all, think that you can do it.

You never know what your thoughts can make you accomplish.

 

Your thoughts affect you more than you think.

If you constantly think of yourself as a failure, you will become one.

You will never be able to move out of your comfort zone if you’re already defeated in your mind.

Fortunately, our thoughts can be controlled.

You reading this right now is proof that can steer yourself anywhere you want.

You can train your mind to inform you to have a “can do” attitude.

It won’t happen in a day.

But trust me, you’ll thank yourself in the future that you started today.

 

“Believe that you can, and you’re already halfway there.”

 

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2017-06-11T15:46:52+00:00 By |Categories: Uncategorized|2 Comments

About the Author:

Nicah Caramba is the founder of Today I'm Changing. She is an entrepreneur who is passionate about self-improvement, travel and Japanese food. She is constantly looking for ways to make progress daily to achieve personal growth that creates impact on others.

2 Comments

  1. Said Azasa April 8, 2017 at 11:09 am - Reply

    An outstanding article. Thank you. Most informative

    • Nicah Caramba April 10, 2017 at 1:55 pm - Reply

      Thanks, Said!

      Hope it helped you. 🙂

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